I am a 68 years old male facing a problem for the past one year. Earlier, I was fully enjoying our married life, but there have been a foreskin issue for the last one year. The foreskin has become so tight that the penis head is not coming out. Even with full erection, I am unable to have intercourse, while the erection swiftly gets lost. After ayurvedic consultation, I was asked to apply pure ghee and massage regularly. I tried other medicines as well, but with no success. The foreskin has softened, but the penis head is not coming out. Please advise. BKP, Malabar Hill
Erection at age 68 is not the same as it was at age 28. It decreases with age which is normal. Kindly check for any infection and confirm that your sugar levels are normal. I suggest you visit a urologist and get your penis physically examined rather than any online treatment. Try using a condom while having sex as it might reduce the discomfort and help in erection. Also, practise stretching the foreskin as far back as pain permits. That is the best substitute for surgery. Do this often gently, but stop pulling as soon as it hurts, cracks or bleeds. If the foreskin ever gets stuck, then massage the penis with LIGNOX 2% and when the foreskin gets softened, pull it forcefully forward to bring it to its former position.
I had an arranged marriage two years ago. My husband is only interested in satisfying himself sexually. He is least interested in fulfilling my needs. What should I do? B M, Kandivali
Understand your own sexual likes and dislikes. You need to learn the ways to meet your sexual needs from him, so educate yourself sexually. He may not be aware of your needs. Don't expect him to read your mind. You can initiate a conversation by playing erotic games. Couple therapy works best under an experienced sexologist. Be wise to bring your desires to his knowledge in a playful way.
I lost my husband at a young age. In the past 15 years, I was busy bringing up my two children. Now, I have this strong urge for sex. Is this unusual? B G, Thane
Sexual desire at any age is normal. It is the physiological need of the mind and body. Do not feel guilty as you have a right to feel loved. Feel free to masturbate or use a vibrator. Getting back to yourself now after you are relieved from your responsibilities is okay.
Dr Hetal Gosalia, Samadhan Health Studio. Queries may be sent to fpj.sexmatters@gmail.com
