Guiding Light: How Our Vibrations Shape Our Friendships

It is best not to label people as friends or enemies. Just remember one thing: if your time is good, your worst enemy will also come to your help. If your time is bad, even your best friend behaves like an enemy. There are not two types of people; there’s just time. That is why in Sanskrit, we say, Kalaya Tasmai Namaha. Whatever the quality of time is, that is how our experiences in the world will be.

Time plays a vital role in shaping people’s understanding and behaviour. Look around, look at yourself. Your views and opinions have changed over the years too. When we place too much emphasis on people’s words and actions, we give away our happiness.

Sometimes you say something that you don’t even mean. What if people hold on to those words and never see beyond them? Would you like it? You won’t. You want them to see you beyond your words. But do you do that for others? Not much. You hold on to what they said close to your chest for years.

Rather than labelling people as friends or enemies, it is wiser to cultivate positive vibrations. Be friendly in your disposition. Would you want to work with someone irritable all the time? Or be with someone who is egotistic or nasty all the time? Now ask yourself: Do you carry these qualities within you? It is better to look within than to look at what others are doing or saying.

We convey much more through our vibrations than through our words. I can sit here and speak for two hours, giving a sermon on love. I can yell at the top of my lungs about peace. But I tell you, it will not make an impact. What makes an impact is what we are.

True communication happens through vibrations. We express our thoughts and feelings through our presence rather than through words. Yet, we spoil so many friendships by holding on to what someone said.

Just look at life from a broader perspective. Beyond an event is knowledge, beyond an object is infinity, and beyond a person is love. We don’t see what is beyond the words. And those who are connected only through words do not have deep friendships.