Sexuality, Safety, & Self-Discovery: Expert Answers To Real-Life Intimate Questions

I am a 23-year-old woman who enjoys sex with my boyfriend. However, of late, I have been showing lesbian tendencies. Is it normal? AS, Chembur

It’s completely normal, and psychologically healthy, to experience a range of attractions over the course of your life. Feeling drawn to the same gender, even while in a relationship with someone of another gender, doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong. It simply reflects a natural part of human sexual diversity.

Sexual orientation is not a conscious choice or a disorder. It’s a part of who you are – shaped by biological, psychological, and social influences. For some, awareness of same-sex attraction begins during adolescence. For others, it may surface more clearly in adulthood. Both experiences are valid. For many, same-sex attraction can involve emotional closeness, sexual desire, or a longing to love – and be loved – by someone of the same gender.

These feelings do not mean you are betraying your current partner; rather, they are signals from within, inviting you to explore and better understand yourself. There is no need for guilt, and certainly no need for therapy aimed at changing your orientation. There’s no need to rush to label yourself or make decisions before you feel ready. Take your time. Self-discovery is a process, not a race.

I am 70 years young. I have a normal erection but the sperm does not eject. Is this normal? MP, Andheri West

Ejaculation and orgasm seem to go hand in hand and are linked to sexual satisfaction. In reality, both are separate events. It is normally believed ‘ejaculation is orgasm’. So getting an erection and not ejaculating feels disturbing.

Dry orgasm is a non-ejaculatory orgasm which is equally enjoyable as an ejaculatory orgasm. It happens due to physical reasons (spinal cord injury, side effects of medicines, or other illnesses) or psychological reasons (anxiety, stress, depression, emotional issues) or prostate related issues or removal of the same.

Two months ago, I went to Bangkok and had unprotected sex with two call girls. After returning, I have not had sex with my wife. Should I have a medical check-up before I resume sex with my wife? Please advise. RK, Santa Cruz

A married man living a happy family life will not want to gift sexually transmitted diseases to his wife. It is advisable to have a thorough medical check-up before resuming sex life with your wife. Also, it is wise to use protection when necessary.

Dr Hetal Gosalia Samadhan Health Studio. Queries may be sent to fpj.sexmatters@gmail.com