Sexual Health FAQs: Dr Hetal Gosalia Talks On Pain During Sex, Premature Ejaculation Myths & More

My wife has a small vaginal hole because of which I find having sex with her very painful. What is the solution? KB, Khar West

The shape and size of a vagina, which is a muscular passage, is designed by nature to retract and expand as per need — from being small in case of menstrual blood discharge to getting enlarged during birth —so it is very capable to receive a penis. Hence, no question arises of a small vaginal hole leaving you in pain during sex. On the contrary, it would be painful for your partner due to the small hole. The commonest reasons for pain are: lack of lubrication leading to friction between vaginal wall and penis. Foreplay enhances lubrication. Other issues include a tight foreskin leading to stretch or tear, the type of condom used, if any, skin infection and allergies and sexually transmitted infections. You can visit any skin specialist for penis infection.

I am told that circumcision helps prevent premature ejaculation. Is this true? Will you advise me to go for that? JD, Ghatkopar East

There is no role of circumcision at all in the management of premature ejaculation (PE). So, I will advise no need for circumcision for PE issue. Ideally, the intact foreskin is supposed to enhance sexual pleasure. Guys ask this question as we live in a porn-educated world, wherein the penis is shown without the foreskin and he is performing long, that too with multiple partners. Wise is to get educated on the causes of PE and learn how to overcome it naturally.

I am a 35-year-old married man. A young woman staying in the adjacent flat has honey-trapped me into having sex. I am now having a white discharge whenever I urinate. What should I do? HD, Dombivli East

Please use the needful protection. Your concern for the white discharge while urinating points towards urinary tract infection, sexually transmitted infections, inflammation at penis tip, prostate infection or any bacterial infection. Check whether discharge is associated with burning and foul smell. Kindly consult a doc- tor, get tested and treated ASAP, as if left untreated, it will cause more complications. Either use a condom or refrain from sex, as you may transfer the ailment to your partner.